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The Mel Robbins PodcastNovember 3, 2025
3 Questions to Ask Yourself to Figure Out What You Really Want
About This Episode
If you’ve ever had that quiet thought – “There’s more I’m meant to do” – this episode is your sign to pay attention. What if the life you want isn’t as far away as it feels? What if you could start seeing new possibilities right now? In this episode, Mel shares 3 powerful questions you need to ask yourself this week. Developed by Stanford University professors, these questions have helped millions of people design lives they love. They’re simple, but they’ll shake up how you think about your work, your relationships, your life purpose, and the direction you’re heading right this second. By the end, you’ll know exactly where you have “unfinished business” with yourself – and how to finally take action on it. You’ll learn: -The 3 questions from Stanford’s “Designing Your Life” course that reveal what you really want next. -How to identify and create new options for your life, even when you think you have none. -How to take one small step today that quietly changes everything. You don’t need to have it all figured out. You don’t need to blow up your life and start from scratch. You just need to ask yourself these 3 questions, then watch your life change for the better. For more resources, click here for the podcast episode page. If you liked the episode, check out this one next: How to Design Your Life (A Full Step-by-Step Process). Connect with Mel: Get Mel’s newsletter, packed with tools, coaching, and inspiration. Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Mel on Instagram The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram Mel's TikTok Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free Disclaimer
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Books Mentioned

Designing Your Life
Bill Burnett and Dave Evans
“The professors have also written a book called Designing Your Life, which is tied to the popular Designing Your Life course at Stanford University.”
ASIN: 1101875321
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Atomic Habits
James Clear
“James Clear, he's the author of the seminal Atomic Habit, he puts it perfectly. Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become.”
ASIN: B07RFSSYBH
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“The speaker mentions writing 'The Five Second Rule' as part of their journey and unfinished business.”
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“The speaker also mentions writing 'The Five Five Habit' in the context of their speaking career.”
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