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3 Questions to Ask Yourself to Figure Out What You Really Want

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3 Questions to Ask Yourself to Figure Out What You Really Want mentions Atomic Habits by James Clear, Designing Your Life by Bill Burnett and Dave Evans, The Five Second Rule by Mel, and The Five Five Habit with timestamps, quotes, and episode context.

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Atomic Habits
James Clear

Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become.

Designing Your Life
Bill Burnett and Dave Evans

Because Stanford University professors, Bill Burnett and Dave Evans, they have taught the mega popular Designing Your Life course at Stanford Univers…

I wrote The Five Second Rule.

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If you’ve ever had that quiet thought – “There’s more I’m meant to do” – this episode is your sign to pay attention. What if the life you want isn’t as far away as it feels? What if you could start seeing new possibilities right now? In this episode, Mel shares 3 powerful questions you need to ask yourself this week. Developed by Stanford University professors, these questions have helped millions of people design lives they love. They’re simple, but they’ll shake up how you think about your work, your relationships, your life purpose, and the direction you’re heading right this second. By the end, you’ll know exactly where you have “unfinished business” with yourself – and how to finally take action on it. You’ll learn: -The 3 questions from Stanford’s “Designing Your Life” course that reveal what you really want next. -How to identify and create new options for your life, even when you think you have none. -How to take one small step today that quietly changes everything. You don’t need to have it all figured out. You don’t need to blow up your life and start from scratch. You just need to ask yourself these 3 questions, then watch your life change for the better. For more resources, click here for the podcast episode page. If you liked the episode, check out this one next: How to Design Your Life (A Full Step-by-Step Process). Connect with Mel: Get Mel’s newsletter, packed with tools, coaching, and inspiration. Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Mel on Instagram The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram Mel's TikTok Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free Disclaimer
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Atomic Habits
James Clear

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Designing Your Life
Bill Burnett and Dave Evans

The host discusses the concept of having unfinished business with oneself and how it can lead to significant life cha…

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The Five Second Rule
Mel

The host mentions 'The Five Second Rule' to illustrate the importance of allowing oneself to dream and envision a lif…

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  • Referenced books include Atomic Habits by James Clear and Designing Your Life by Bill Burnett and Dave Evans.
  • The strongest audience signal points to Individuals seeking personal growth and motivation and Individuals seeking personal growth and life direction.

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Individuals seeking personal growth and motivationIndividuals seeking personal growth and life directionIndividuals seeking personal growth and clarity in their life goals.Individuals seeking personal growth and self-discovery

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Atomic Habits
James Clear
Best for Individuals seeking personal growth and motivationOften cited around visualizing future change

James Clear, he's the author of the seminal Atomic Habit, he puts it perfectly. Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become.

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Sentiment: Highly Recommended
For: Individuals seeking personal growth and motivation
Key quote: Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become.
The host mentions 'Atomic Habits' to emphasize the importance of intentional actions in shaping one's future. By referencing James Clear's work, the host encourages listeners to reflect on their current paths and make conscious choices to become the person they aspire to be.
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Designing Your Life
Bill Burnett and Dave Evans
Best for Individuals seeking personal growth and life directionOften cited around life changes and epiphanies

The professors have also written a book called Designing Your Life, which is tied to the popular Designing Your Life course at Stanford University.

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Sentiment: Deep Dive
For: Individuals seeking personal growth and life direction
Key quote: Because Stanford University professors, Bill Burnett and Dave Evans, they have taught the mega popular Designing Your Life course at Stanford University for 15 years.
The host discusses the concept of having unfinished business with oneself and how it can lead to significant life changes. They mention the book 'Designing Your Life' as a resource that provides a structured approach to exploring these personal revelations and making meaningful shifts.
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Best for Individuals seeking personal growth and clarity in their life goals.Often cited around dreaming exercise

The speaker mentions writing 'The Five Second Rule' as part of their journey and unfinished business.

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Sentiment: Deep Dive
For: Individuals seeking personal growth and clarity in their life goals.
Key quote: I wrote The Five Second Rule.
The host mentions 'The Five Second Rule' to illustrate the importance of allowing oneself to dream and envision a life without limitations. This book serves as a catalyst for personal reflection and taking actionable steps towards one's aspirations.
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Best for Individuals seeking personal growth and self-discoveryOften cited around dreaming exercise

The speaker also mentions writing 'The Five Five Habit' in the context of their speaking career.

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Sentiment: Deep Dive
For: Individuals seeking personal growth and self-discovery
Key quote: I want you to write about this.
The host mentions 'The Five Five Habit' to illustrate the importance of allowing oneself to dream and explore personal aspirations without limitations. This book serves as a guide for individuals seeking to reconnect with their true desires and unfinished business in life.
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Atomic Habits
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Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become.
Designing Your Life
The Mel Robbins Podcast · 6:35
Because Stanford University professors, Bill Burnett and Dave Evans, they have taught the mega popular Designing Your Life course at Stanford Univers…
The Five Second Rule
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I wrote The Five Second Rule.
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Mentioned at 21:37
Atomic Habits
James Clear

The host mentions 'Atomic Habits' to emphasize the importance of intentional actions in shaping one's future. By referencing James Clear's work, th…

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Mentioned at 6:35
Designing Your Life
Bill Burnett and Dave Evans

The host discusses the concept of having unfinished business with oneself and how it can lead to significant life changes. They mention the book 'D…

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Mentioned at 52:12
The Five Second Rule
Mel

The host mentions 'The Five Second Rule' to illustrate the importance of allowing oneself to dream and envision a life without limitations. This bo…

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Love Story

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This podcast is supported by FX's Love Story, a limited series exploring the complex courtship of John F. Kennedy Jr. and Carolyn Bissett.