The Mel Robbins PodcastJan 9, 2025

How to Stop Caring What People Think of You

Notable books mentioned: let them theory by Mel Robbins, Trauma, The Invisible Epidemic by Dr. Paul Conti, Winnicott

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Mel Robbins

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Trauma, The Invisible Epidemic

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Today, you’re going to learn the simple trick to stop caring what other people think. If you find that you take things personally, worry what other people think about you, are scared of being judged, or find that you can’t stop overthinking, you’ll love this episode. You’ll learn how to stop people-pleasing and start doing what is right for you. Featured in today’s episode is Chrissy Teigen, who opens up about her own struggles with people-pleasing. Mel gives Chrissy the coaching session of a lifetime, and what they talk about together will resonate deeply with you. This episode is both deeply personal and highly practical. You’ll learn: Why you care so much about what other people think. How to Let Them think bad thoughts about you. The tools you need to live your life on your own terms again. Get ready to take back control of your life again and live it for yourself. To listen to Chrissy Teigen’s new podcast on Audible, Self-Conscious with Chrissy Teigen, go to https://audible.com/chrissyandmel Get a copy of Mel’s new book, The Let Them Theory, which she mentions in this episode, here. For more resources, including links to the studies mentioned in the episode, click here for the podcast episode page. If you liked this personal, tactical, and relatable episode, listen to this one next: The One Tool to Transform Your Relationships: The Let Them Theory Connect with Mel: Watch the episodes on YouTube Get Mel’s new book, The Let Them Theory Follow Mel on Instagram The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram Mel's TikTok Sign up for Mel’s personal letter Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ on Apple Podcasts to listen to ad-free new episodes Disclaimer

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childhood emotional development(1)self-criticism and validation(1)worrying about others' opinions(1)

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Individuals struggling with self-criticism and fear of judgmentIndividuals struggling with self-esteem and negative self-talkParents and mental health professionals

Books Mentioned

let them theory

Mel Robbins

Best for Individuals struggling with self-criticism and fear of judgmentOften cited around worrying about others' opinions

“The speaker discusses the 'let them theory' book and how it has been life altering in learning to stop worrying about what others think.”

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Sentiment: Deep Dive

Trigger: worrying about others' opinions

For: Individuals struggling with self-criticism and fear of judgment

Key quote: “Your power is in what you think about yourself.”

The host discusses the detrimental effects of worrying about what others think and introduces the 'let them theory' as a solution. This approach empowers listeners to focus on their self-perception rather than external judgments.

ASIN: B0DFMZMKFJ

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Trauma, The Invisible Epidemic

Dr. Paul Conti

Best for Individuals struggling with self-esteem and negative self-talkOften cited around self-criticism and validation

“Dr. Paul Conti wrote the New York Times bestseller, Trauma, The Invisible Epidemic. The introduction for that book was written by Lady Gaga, because he treated Lady Gaga.”

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Sentiment: Deep Dive

Trigger: self-criticism and validation

For: Individuals struggling with self-esteem and negative self-talk

Key quote: “Dr. Conti explained why we are all so negative, why we are all criticizing ourselves, why we all feel like we're not good enough, and also why we give so much weight to other people's opinions.”

The host references Dr. Paul Conti's book to highlight the pervasive nature of self-criticism and the search for external validation. They emphasize how understanding these concepts can help individuals break free from negative thought patterns that often stem from childhood experiences.

ASIN: 1683647351

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Winnicott

Best for Parents and mental health professionalsOften cited around childhood emotional development

“There was an English physician named Winnicott who wrote about the idea of raising children is so that the child can feel good enough.”

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Sentiment: Deep Dive

Trigger: childhood emotional development

For: Parents and mental health professionals

Key quote: “there was an English physician named Winnicott who wrote about the idea of raising children is so that the child can feel good enough”

The host mentions Winnicott to highlight the importance of understanding childhood experiences and their impact on self-worth. The discussion emphasizes how children often misattribute negative experiences to themselves, which can carry into adulthood.

ASIN: 0674953614

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