The Mel Robbins PodcastDec 9, 2024

The Only Dating Advice You'll Ever Need

Notable books mentioned: How to Not Die Alone by Logan Urie, You're Not Going to Die Alone, Fuck the Spark, The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins

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How to Not Die Alone

Logan Urie

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You're Not Going to Die Alone

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Fuck the Spark

Logan Urie discusses the misconceptions surrounding the idea of an instant spark in romantic relationships, highlighting how it can lead to unreali…

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In The Only Dating Advice You'll Ever Need, Logan Ury and the hosts mention How to Not Die Alone by Logan Urie, You're Not Going to Die Alone, Fuck the Spark, and The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins with timestamps, quotes, and episode context.

How to Not Die Alone You're Not Going to Die Alone Fuck the Spark The Let Them Theory

Guest: Logan Ury

Episode summary

Today, you are getting the best dating advice out there for both you and your loved ones. Mel sits down with Logan Ury – a behavior scientist, dating expert, host of Netflix’s new dating series “The Later Daters,” and Director of Relationship Science at Hinge – to get her science-backed insights on finding success in dating. If dating apps make you feel hopeless, if you feel like dating is broken, or can’t seem to find “the one,” Logan’s insights will change your approach to finding love forever. Whether you're single, in a relationship, or supporting a loved one navigating the dating scene, this episode is packed with science-backed insights and actionable tools to help anyone find the love they deserve. For more resources, including links to the studies mentioned in the episode, click here for the podcast episode page. If you’re in your relationship and want tools and tips on how to make it better, listen to this episode next: 5 Signs of an Incompatible Relationship & 3 Signs You’ve Found “The One” Connect with Mel: Watch the episodes on YouTube Get Mel’s new book, The Let Them Theory Follow Mel on Instagram The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram Mel's TikTok Sign up for Mel’s personal letter Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ on Apple Podcasts to listen to ad-free new episodes Disclaimer

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dating app filters(1)myth of instant chemistry(1)spark in relationships(1)struggles in dating(1)

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Deep Dive(2)Highly Recommended(1)Passing Reference(1)

Audience signals

Individuals struggling with dating and relationships, regardless of age.Individuals struggling with dating expectationsIndividuals navigating dating and relationshipsIndividuals struggling with dating patterns and relationship expectations.

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How to Not Die Alone

Logan Urie

Best for Individuals struggling with dating and relationships, regardless of age.Often cited around struggles in dating

“Logan Urie is the author of the bestselling book, How to Not Die Alone. She has spent the last five years as the director of relationship science at Hinge, studying dating trends and helping people build better relationships.”

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Sentiment: Highly Recommended

Trigger: struggles in dating

For: Individuals struggling with dating and relationships, regardless of age.

Key quote: “Logan Urie is a Harvard-trained behavioral scientist, a dating coach, a researcher on dating and love.”

The host mentions 'How to Not Die Alone' to highlight the challenges people face in the dating scene and to introduce Logan Urie, who offers valuable insights based on her research. The book is presented as a resource for anyone navigating the complexities of relationships today.

ASIN: 1982120630

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You're Not Going to Die Alone

Best for Individuals struggling with dating expectationsOften cited around dating app filters

“The title of the book is mentioned in the context of discussing a dating event and the experiences of participants.”

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Sentiment: Passing Reference

Trigger: dating app filters

For: Individuals struggling with dating expectations

Key quote: “Oh my God. I just want to die for that person right now. Okay. But you're not going to die alone.”

The host mentions the book 'You're Not Going to Die Alone' to emphasize the importance of not being overly selective in dating. They illustrate how strict filters can prevent potential connections that might otherwise be meaningful.

ASIN: B08RQJGR9F

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Fuck the Spark

Best for Individuals navigating dating and relationshipsOften cited around myth of instant chemistry

“Logan Urie mentions a chapter in her book called 'Fuck the Spark', which has become her unofficial motto regarding dating expectations.”

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Sentiment: Deep Dive

Trigger: myth of instant chemistry

For: Individuals navigating dating and relationships

Key quote: “So, fuck the spark and go after the slow burn.”

Logan Urie discusses the misconceptions surrounding the idea of an instant spark in romantic relationships, highlighting how it can lead to unrealistic expectations. Her book, 'Fuck the Spark,' serves as a guide to understanding that meaningful connections can develop over time, rather than relying solely on initial chemistry.

ASIN: 178648188X

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The Let Them Theory

Mel Robbins

Best for Individuals struggling with dating patterns and relationship expectations.Often cited around spark in relationships

“The speaker discusses research related to dating patterns and mentions their book, 'The Let Them Theory', which addresses these issues.”

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Sentiment: Deep Dive

Trigger: spark in relationships

For: Individuals struggling with dating patterns and relationship expectations.

Key quote: “But a lot of the best relationships are with people who are consistent and who will be a great partner long term.”

The host mentions 'The Let Them Theory' to illustrate how the concept of a spark can lead to dysfunctional relationship patterns. They emphasize the importance of recognizing one's dating tendencies and focusing on the potential of a slow burn rather than an immediate spark.

ASIN: B0DFMZMKFJ

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