The Mel Robbins PodcastNov 18, 2024

The Real Reason You’re Exhausted: How To Gain Control of Your Time & Your Life

Guest: Scott Lyons

Notable books mentioned: This is Water by David Foster Wallace, Gabor Mate, The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins

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This is Water

David Foster Wallace

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Gabor Mate

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The Let Them Theory

Mel Robbins

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Guest: Scott Lyons

Episode summary

It’s time to get off the hamster wheel that’s leaving you exhausted and overwhelmed. If the idea of “doing nothing” feels almost painful and you feel uncomfortable when you’re not busy, this episode is the wake-up call you need. Today, Mel unpacks one of the most common addictions that you probably have never heard of before: the addiction to busyness and stress. Here to give more research and advice is Dr. Scott Lyons, a medical doctor, psychologist, and world-renowned trauma expert. Dr. Lyons explains why over-scheduling every second of your day and constantly feeling “not enough” unless stretched to the limit is keeping you disconnected. By the end of this episode, you’ll have actionable steps to break free from the cycle and regain control of your time, energy, and peace of mind. For more resources, including links to the studies mentioned in the episode, click here for the podcast episode page. If you liked this empowering and insightful episode, listen to this one next: #1 Stress Doctor: 5 Tools to Protect Your Brain From Stress & Feel Calmer Now Connect with Mel: Watch the episodes on YouTube Get Mel’s new book, The Let Them Theory Follow Mel on Instagram The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram Mel's TikTok Sign up for Mel’s personal letter Disclaimer

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addiction to busyness(1)busyness and overwhelm(1)understanding addiction and pain(1)

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Deep Dive(2)Passing Reference(1)

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Individuals struggling with stress and busynessIndividuals seeking to understand addiction and its psychological roots.Individuals feeling overwhelmed by their busy lives

Books Mentioned

This is Water

David Foster Wallace

Best for Individuals struggling with stress and busynessOften cited around addiction to busyness

“David Foster Wallace gave a commencement address at Kenyon College in 2005 that was later turned into the book, 'This is Water'. He tells a story about two little fish swimming and the difficulty of recognizing the water they are in.”

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Sentiment: Deep Dive

Trigger: addiction to busyness

For: Individuals struggling with stress and busyness

Key quote: “And the point of the story is this. It's hard to see the thing that you're swimming in because it's all around you.”

The host mentions 'This is Water' to illustrate the pervasive nature of busyness in our lives, comparing it to the water that surrounds fish, which they often fail to recognize. This reference serves to highlight the importance of understanding our behaviors and the impact they have on our well-being.

ASIN: 0316068225

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Gabor Mate

Best for Individuals seeking to understand addiction and its psychological roots.Often cited around understanding addiction and pain

“Gabor Mate is this brilliant, physician and addiction specialist. And he says, don't ask why the addiction, ask why the pain.”

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Sentiment: Deep Dive

Trigger: understanding addiction and pain

For: Individuals seeking to understand addiction and its psychological roots.

Key quote: “Gabor Mate is this brilliant, physician and addiction specialist. And he says, don't ask why the addiction, ask why the pain.”

The host mentions Gabor Mate to highlight his perspective on addiction, emphasizing the connection between pain and addictive behaviors. This insight is crucial for understanding the underlying reasons for addiction rather than just the symptoms.

ASIN: B09B83215L

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The Let Them Theory

Mel Robbins

Best for Individuals feeling overwhelmed by their busy livesOften cited around busyness and overwhelm

“The speaker mentions having a new book, 'The Let Them Theory', coming out and being in the middle of its promotion.”

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Sentiment: Passing Reference

Trigger: busyness and overwhelm

For: Individuals feeling overwhelmed by their busy lives

Key quote: “Last night I got home and I've been on the road promoting the Let Them Theory book.”

The host mentions 'The Let Them Theory' in the context of discussing the overwhelming nature of busyness during the holiday season. This reference highlights the struggle many face in managing their time and the need for a deeper understanding of their internal motivations.

ASIN: B0DFMZMKFJ

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