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The Sex Expert (Esther Perel): The Relationship Crisis No One Talks About That's Killing Your Sex Life!

Esther Perel joins Diary of a CEO to talk about the relationship crisis, desire, sex, intimacy, and the books behind her work, with transcript quotes, timestamps, and episode context.

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Which Diary of a CEO sex expert episode mentions Esther Perel's books?

The Esther Perel Diary of a CEO episode discusses desire, sex, relationships, Mating in Captivity, and State of Affairs, with source quotes and timestamps.

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The Sex Expert (Esther Perel): The Relationship Crisis No One Talks About That's Killing Your Sex Life! mentions State of Affairs by Esther Perel and Mating in Captivity with timestamps, quotes, and episode context.

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State of Affairs
Esther Perel

I spent many years writing this book about infidelity and trying to offer a very nuanced perspective on this very subject.

I wrote about that in Mating in Captivity that came out in 2006.

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Swipe left, feel empty, and wonder why? Esther Perel reveals the hidden truths behind the dating crisis, loneliness, and the shocking decline in sex and intimacy. Esther Perel is a world-renowned psychotherapist and relationship expert, widely recognised as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. She is the bestselling author of books such as, ‘The State of Affairs’. She explains: Why MEN Over 30 Aren’t Having Sex Anymore. The SEX GAME that could Save Your Relationship. How CHILDHOOD TRAUMA is Secretly Sabotaging Your Marriage. Why Investing in AUTHENTIC CONNECTION is the key to a Fulfilling Life. The ONE RED FLAG that Predicts Divorce. 00:00 Intro 02:29 Esther’s Main Concern About Human Connection 03:22 What’s the Consequence of Losing Social Skills? 04:19 Is Online Dating the Only Choice Nowadays? 07:13 The Value of Rejection 07:52 Rejection from the Apps 08:48 What to Do If Dating Apps Don’t Work for You 11:26 Is Too Much Choice Making Dating Harder? 13:01 How to Cope with Online Dating Burnout 14:30 The Changing Role of Masculinity and Its Impact on Society 15:57 Loneliness Today 17:17 Why Do People Have Less Sex Nowadays? 20:17 Importance of Deep Connection in Relationships 21:51 How Phone Use Affects Connection and Sexual Attraction 28:07 Questions from Steven’s Friends 28:53 Is It Always a Good Idea to Admit to Infidelity? 31:17 Attraction with a Partner 33:36 Is Long-Term Faithfulness in a Relationship Possible? 37:06 Importance of Taking Accountability 39:21 How People Are Energizing Their Relationships 42:59 How to Revive Intimacy When Gone for So Long 44:52 Ads 45:55 Do People Enjoy Sex Less Than Before? 48:15 Do I Have to Work on Myself Before I Can Have a Good Relationship? 49:49 Has the Culture of Self-Love Gone Too Far? 51:19 Are Men Emasculated by the Success of Women? 59:08 What Is Social Confidence? 1:02:56 What Gives a Traumatic Experience Meaning? 1:14:10 Would You Delete Mobile Phones to Help Connection? 1:17:08 Can Social Connection Principles Apply to a Workplace? 1:22:06 How Are You Going to Adapt to a World of AI and Robots? Follow Esther: Instagram - https://bit.ly/4l2Et6S Twitter - https://bit.ly/3SJEMaD Website - https://bit.ly/4kTR8ca Podcast - https://bit.ly/3HCfnNv You can purchase Esther’s new 100 question game, ‘Where Should We Begin? At Work’, here: https://bit.ly/4kF0F7h You can purchase Esther’s book ‘The State of Affairs’, here: https://amzn.to/4l0KaSv The Diary Of A CEO: Join DOAC circle here -https://doaccircle.com/ Get your hands on the Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards here: https://bit.ly/conversationcards-mp Get email updates: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/diary-of-a-ceo-yt⁠⁠ Follow Steven: ⁠⁠https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb⁠⁠
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Esther Perel joins Diary of a CEO to talk about the relationship crisis, desire, sex, intimacy, and the books behind her work, with transcript quotes, timestamps, and episode context.

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  • Esther Perel connects declining intimacy to broader social disconnection and the pressure placed on modern relationships.
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Individuals navigating infidelity and relationship challengesIndividuals interested in understanding modern masculinity and relationship dynamics.

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State of Affairs
Esther Perel
Best for Individuals navigating infidelity and relationship challengesOften cited around infidelity and relationships

The speaker recommends reading 'State of Affairs', a book about infidelity, to offer a nuanced perspective on the subject.

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Sentiment: Highly Recommended
For: Individuals navigating infidelity and relationship challenges
Key quote: I spent many years writing this book about infidelity and trying to offer a very nuanced perspective on this very subject.
The host mentions 'State of Affairs' by Esther Perel to provide a nuanced perspective on infidelity and the complexities of honesty in relationships. They emphasize the importance of understanding the impact of sharing past indiscretions on both partners and the relationship narrative.
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Best for Individuals interested in understanding modern masculinity and relationship dynamics.Often cited around loneliness and relationships

I wrote about that in Mating in Captivity that came out in 2006. That's 20 years ago. In order to have sex with a female partner, if that's the man you're talking about, you need to be able to approach her.

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Sentiment: Deep Dive
For: Individuals interested in understanding modern masculinity and relationship dynamics.
Key quote: I wrote about that in Mating in Captivity that came out in 2006.
The host references 'Mating in Captivity' to highlight the changing dynamics of relationships and the increasing loneliness among men. The book discusses how societal shifts have impacted men's ability to form romantic connections, which is particularly relevant in today's context of declining sexual frequency among younger generations.
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State of Affairs
The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett · 29:03
I spent many years writing this book about infidelity and trying to offer a very nuanced perspective on this very subject.
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I wrote about that in Mating in Captivity that came out in 2006.
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State of Affairs
Esther Perel

The host mentions 'State of Affairs' by Esther Perel to provide a nuanced perspective on infidelity and the complexities of honesty in relationship…

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Mating in Captivity

The host references 'Mating in Captivity' to highlight the changing dynamics of relationships and the increasing loneliness among men. The book dis…

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