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Modern WisdomJan 2, 2025

#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

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#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser mentions The Road Less Traveled by Scott Peck, Not Nice by Aziz Gaspari, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson, and Sirens of Titan by Kurt Vonnegut with timestamps, quotes, and episode context.

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The road less traveled is probably the book that will change your life the fastest.

Not Nice
Aziz Gaspari

I think that was the first book I ever read that really addressed this kind of people pleasing behavior.

Mark Manson did a marvelous job with, you know, subtle art.

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Nick Pollard, “The People Displeaser,” is a coach and a speaker. Why do we feel so compelled to put others ahead of ourselves? Surely at the very minimum we should be able to prioritise ourselves. Yet it's hard. So, how can you break free from people pleasing tendencies and actually start advocating for your own needs with confidence? Expect to learn why people pleasing is such a trap, how someone can distinguish between being considerate and sacrificing their own identity to please others, how to rehabilitate yourself from being a people pleaser, why it’s so hard to advocate to your own needs, how to know when you should give up on someone and much more...
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The Road Less Traveled
Scott Peck

The host highlights 'The Road Less Traveled' as a transformative book that challenges readers to confront their excus…

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Not Nice
Aziz Gaspari

The host mentioned 'Not Nice' by Aziz Gaspari as a pivotal book that helped him identify and understand his own peopl…

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The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
Mark Manson

The host praises Mark Manson's approach in 'The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck'. They believe his insights are valua…

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Sirens of Titan
Kurt Vonnegut

The host mentions 'Sirens of Titan' as their favorite work by Kurt Vonnegut, highlighting their admiration for the au…

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Psycho-Cybernetics
Maxwell Maltz

The host reflects on their early engagement with Maxwell Maltz's book, 'Psycho-Cybernetics.' They highlight the book'…

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Slaughterhouse-Five
Kurt Vonnegut

The host expresses admiration for Kurt Vonnegut as their favorite author. They mention 'Slaughterhouse-Five' as a com…

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No More Mr. Nice Guy
Dr. Robert Glover

The host briefly mentions 'No More Mr. Nice Guy' as a foundational text in the context of their discussion. This refe…

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Atomic Habits
James Clear

The host briefly mentions 'Atomic Habits' as one of the notable books in the realm of personal growth. However, they…

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The Road Less Traveled cover
Best for Individuals seeking personal development and self-improvementOften cited around personal growth literature

Scott Peck is, is, I mean, it was one of the number one selling personal growth books of all time, which is the road less traveled.

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Sentiment: Highly Recommended
For: Individuals seeking personal development and self-improvement
Key quote: The road less traveled is probably the book that will change your life the fastest.
The host highlights 'The Road Less Traveled' as a transformative book that challenges readers to confront their excuses and embrace personal growth. They emphasize its impact, suggesting that it can significantly change one's life if fully absorbed.
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Not Nice
Aziz Gaspari
Best for Individuals seeking personal growth and self-awarenessOften cited around people pleasing behavior

The first book I ever read that really addressed this kind of people pleasing behavior really put, helped me put a tag on it.

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Sentiment: Highly Recommended
For: Individuals seeking personal growth and self-awareness
Key quote: I think that was the first book I ever read that really addressed this kind of people pleasing behavior.
The host mentioned 'Not Nice' by Aziz Gaspari as a pivotal book that helped him identify and understand his own people pleasing tendencies. He emphasizes its significance in addressing behaviors that many struggle with but may not recognize.
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The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck cover
Best for Readers interested in personal developmentOften cited around Mark Manson's writing style

Mark Manson did a marvelous job with, you know, subtle art.

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Sentiment: Highly Recommended
For: Readers interested in personal development
Key quote: Mark Manson did a marvelous job with, you know, subtle art.
The host praises Mark Manson's approach in 'The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck'. They believe his insights are valuable for those seeking a different perspective on personal development.
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Sirens of Titan
Kurt Vonnegut
Best for Readers interested in fiction and personal growthOften cited around favorite fictional author

Sirens of Titans is my favorite. I just love, I love him as an author.

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Sentiment: Highly Recommended
For: Readers interested in fiction and personal growth
Key quote: I just love, I love him as an author.
The host mentions 'Sirens of Titan' as their favorite work by Kurt Vonnegut, highlighting their admiration for the author. They express a deep connection to Vonnegut's writing, indicating that it resonates with them on a personal level.
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Psycho-Cybernetics
Maxwell Maltz
Best for Individuals interested in personal developmentOften cited around importance of mindset

Maxwell Maltz is probably was one of the first real books that I ever engaged. It's called Psycho-Cybernetics. His equation of humans is that we're not going to be able to do anything unless we aim away from not the target.

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Sentiment: Passing Reference
For: Individuals interested in personal development
Key quote: His equation of humans is that we're not going to be able to do anything unless we aim away from not the target.
The host reflects on their early engagement with Maxwell Maltz's book, 'Psycho-Cybernetics.' They highlight the book's perspective on human potential and the necessity of aiming towards positive goals.
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Slaughterhouse-Five
Kurt Vonnegut
Best for Fans of classic literatureOften cited around favorite fictional author

My favorite fictional author is Kurt Vonnegut. Which book? Slaughterhouse five is probably the one that everybody says.

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Sentiment: Passing Reference
For: Fans of classic literature
Key quote: Slaughterhouse five is probably the one that everybody says.
The host expresses admiration for Kurt Vonnegut as their favorite author. They mention 'Slaughterhouse-Five' as a commonly recognized work by him.
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No More Mr. Nice Guy
Dr. Robert Glover
Best for Individuals exploring personal developmentOften cited around cornerstone text discussion

The cornerstone text of course, is going to be Dr. Robert Glover, you know, no more, Mr. Nice guy.

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Sentiment: Passing Reference
For: Individuals exploring personal development
Key quote: The cornerstone text of course, is going to be Dr. Robert Glover, you know, no more, Mr. Nice guy.
The host briefly mentions 'No More Mr. Nice Guy' as a foundational text in the context of their discussion. This reference suggests its significance but does not delve into its content or implications.
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Atomic Habits
James Clear
Best for Individuals interested in personal development and habit formation.Often cited around impactful personal growth books

You know, atomic habits and, you know, obviously James Clear and Tim Ferriss and all those guys.

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Sentiment: Passing Reference
For: Individuals interested in personal development and habit formation.
Key quote: I don't want to read any more about how I have to have habits.
The host briefly mentions 'Atomic Habits' as one of the notable books in the realm of personal growth. However, they express a sense of burnout regarding the topic of habits, indicating they have absorbed a lot of information on it already.
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The Road Less Traveled
Modern Wisdom · 2:00:32
The road less traveled is probably the book that will change your life the fastest.
Not Nice
Modern Wisdom · 1:59:49
I think that was the first book I ever read that really addressed this kind of people pleasing behavior.
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
Modern Wisdom · 2:00:45
Mark Manson did a marvelous job with, you know, subtle art.
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The Road Less Traveled cover
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The Road Less Traveled
Scott Peck

The host highlights 'The Road Less Traveled' as a transformative book that challenges readers to confront their excuses and embrace personal growth…

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Not Nice cover
Mentioned at 1:59:49
Not Nice
Aziz Gaspari

The host mentioned 'Not Nice' by Aziz Gaspari as a pivotal book that helped him identify and understand his own people pleasing tendencies. He emph…

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The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck cover
Mentioned at 2:00:45
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
Mark Manson

The host praises Mark Manson's approach in 'The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck'. They believe his insights are valuable for those seeking a differ…

Direct Amazon listing · affiliate link

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