#713 - Rob Henderson - Why Is Everyone Acting Like A Victim?

Melissa Carney

Melissa Carney's new book, the two parent privilege is talking about how those college educated people who've got that predisposition again, get an e…

Leslie Newsome

Historically, there may have been women who avoided the burdens of pregnancy, but those women are not our ancestors.

David Buss

So I think the way that it might manifest itself in the modern age is I don't need to wear a seatbelt.

Guest: Rob Henderson

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Rob Henderson is a psychologist, US Air Force veteran, and author of Troubled: A Memoir of Foster Care, Family, and Social Class. Humans are an odd species. We know truths on our own but choose to lie in groups. Our thinking gets hijacked by social norms, paths of least resistance, lies and half truths. It's a mess out there, but thankfully there's ideas we can discover to help us navigate. Expect to learn what the friendship paradox is, how we can fix the mate deprivation problem, what green flags most women look for in men, the relationship between social media and hostility, why people reason more wisely about others’ problems rather than their own, what Rob's thoughts are on the most recent wave of the body positivity movement and much more…

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Melissa Carney

The host discusses how Melissa Carney's book, 'The Two Parent Privilege,' highlights the advantages that college-educ…

Leslie Newsome

The host discusses a speculative chapter by Roy Baumeister regarding the evolutionary implications of concealed ovula…

David Buss

The host discusses the concept of young male syndrome and its implications on behavior, particularly in relation to e…

The sun also rises

Gregory Clark

The host mentions 'The Sun Also Rises' to illustrate how social status is persistent across generations, as documente…

Thinking Fast and Slow

Daniel Kahneman

The host mentions 'Thinking Fast and Slow' to illustrate the psychological concept of 'what you see is all there is,'…

The Best Sort of People to Be Friends With

Gad Saad

The host mentions Gad Saad's book to illustrate the concept of the friendship paradox, where individuals often percei…

The 48 Laws of Power

Robert Greene

The host briefly mentions 'The 48 Laws of Power' to highlight the significance of social connections in gaining and m…

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Melissa Carney

Best for Individuals interested in social dynamics and parenting advantagesOften cited around impact of two parent privilege

“Melissa Carney's new book, the two parent privilege is talking about how those college educated people who've got that predisposition again, get an even bigger advantage.”

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Sentiment: Deep Dive

Trigger: impact of two parent privilege

For: Individuals interested in social dynamics and parenting advantages

Key quote: “Melissa Carney's new book, the two parent privilege is talking about how those college educated people who've got that predisposition again, get an even bigger, uh, advantage.”

The host discusses how Melissa Carney's book, 'The Two Parent Privilege,' highlights the advantages that college-educated individuals have in parenting. This book is referenced in the context of broader societal trends regarding genetics and social status across generations.

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Leslie Newsome

Best for Individuals interested in evolutionary psychology and human reproductive strategies.Often cited around concealed ovulation theory

“Leslie Newsome's book provides a sweeping, updated overview of human evolution, discussing the historical burdens of pregnancy and the women who underwent these challenges.”

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Sentiment: Deep Dive

Trigger: concealed ovulation theory

For: Individuals interested in evolutionary psychology and human reproductive strategies.

Key quote: “Historically, there may have been women who avoided the burdens of pregnancy, but those women are not our ancestors.”

The host discusses a speculative chapter by Roy Baumeister regarding the evolutionary implications of concealed ovulation in women. They reference Leslie Newsome's book, 'The Story of Us,' to highlight how historical reproductive challenges shaped women's evolutionary path.

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David Buss

Best for Individuals interested in psychology and behavioral studiesOften cited around young male syndrome

“The speaker mentions reading David Buss's evolutionary psychology textbook in grad school, highlighting its insights on the mate deprivation hypothesis.”

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Trigger: young male syndrome

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Key quote: “So I think the way that it might manifest itself in the modern age is I don't need to wear a seatbelt.”

The host discusses the concept of young male syndrome and its implications on behavior, particularly in relation to evolutionary psychology. They reference the book to highlight how certain behaviors in men, such as risk-taking and signaling toughness, can be understood through an evolutionary lens.

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The sun also rises

Gregory Clark

Best for listeners interested in behavioral genetics and social dynamicsOften cited around assortative mating and genetics

“I just read this book. The sun also rises by Gregory Clark, who's an economic historian, very well versed in the behavioral genetics.”

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Sentiment: Deep Dive

Trigger: assortative mating and genetics

For: listeners interested in behavioral genetics and social dynamics

Key quote: “essentially that book, he documents, uh, in various societies, essentially how, uh, social status sort of loosely defined as sort of wealth and influence and so on is very sticky, uh, across generations.”

The host mentions 'The Sun Also Rises' to illustrate how social status is persistent across generations, as documented by Gregory Clark. This book provides a historical perspective on how wealth and influence are transmitted, which relates to the ongoing discussion about assortative mating in modern society.

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Thinking Fast and Slow

Daniel Kahneman

Best for Individuals interested in psychology and social dynamicsOften cited around friendship paradox

“In the classic psychology book, Thinking Fast and Slow, Daniel Kahneman coined this term, what you see is all there is.”

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Sentiment: Deep Dive

Trigger: friendship paradox

For: Individuals interested in psychology and social dynamics

Key quote: “In the classic psychology book, Thinking Fast and Slow, Daniel Kahneman coined this term, what you see is all there is.”

The host mentions 'Thinking Fast and Slow' to illustrate the psychological concept of 'what you see is all there is,' which relates to how people perceive their social lives compared to others. This concept helps explain why individuals may feel socially diminished when comparing themselves to more extroverted friends.

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The Best Sort of People to Be Friends With

Gad Saad

Best for Individuals interested in social psychology and friendship dynamics.Often cited around friendship paradox

“Gad Saad in his most recent book talks about the best sort of people to be friends with, the people who are having a little bit less sex than you.”

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Sentiment: Passing Reference

Trigger: friendship paradox

For: Individuals interested in social psychology and friendship dynamics.

Key quote: “Gad Saad in his most recent book talks about the best sort of people to be friends with, the people who are having a little bit less sex than you.”

The host mentions Gad Saad's book to illustrate the concept of the friendship paradox, where individuals often perceive their social lives as less fulfilling compared to their friends. This reference serves to highlight the psychological implications of social comparisons in friendships.

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The 48 Laws of Power

Robert Greene

Best for Individuals interested in power dynamics and social influence.Often cited around attainment of power

“One of the chapters in Robert Greene's 40 laws of power discusses the attainment of power and the importance of being plugged into the social scene to maintain influence.”

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Trigger: attainment of power

For: Individuals interested in power dynamics and social influence.

Key quote: “One of the chapters in Robert Greene's 40 laws of power discusses the attainment of power and the importance of being plugged into the social scene to maintain influence.”

The host briefly mentions 'The 48 Laws of Power' to highlight the significance of social connections in gaining and maintaining influence. This reference serves to underscore the broader discussion on power dynamics.

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the two parent privilege

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Melissa Carney's new book, the two parent privilege is talking about how those college educated people who've got that predisposition again, get an e…

The Story of Us

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Historically, there may have been women who avoided the burdens of pregnancy, but those women are not our ancestors.

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So I think the way that it might manifest itself in the modern age is I don't need to wear a seatbelt.

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