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Modern WisdomOct 16, 2023

#694 - Sadia Khan - Why Is Modern Dating Such A Mess?

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Sadia Khan

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Lost Connections The Alchemist Bad Men or Men Behaving Badly

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Lost Connections The Alchemist Bad Men or Men Behaving Badly

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Lost Connections

Johan Hari

The goal of life is not to get sex. It's to get connection.

The Alchemist

Paulo Coelho

if anyone's not read The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho, there's this young shepherd boy going on a journey of self-discovery trying to find out who he is.

Bad Men or Men Behaving Badly

David Bust

This is the failure of cross sex mind reading, and it explains so much about the world that that men and women inhabit because we don't inhabit the s…

Guest: Sadia Khan

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Sadia Khan is a relationship coach and a speaker. Dating in the modern world is more fraught than ever. Men and women are finding themselves confused and lost as they try to make sense of a mating landscape which becomes ever more difficult to navigate. Expect to learn why Sadia’s Instagram has been banned 3 times, why nice guys have such a hard time in relationships, whether men and women can actually be friends, whether hot women tend to be crazier, how to stop being a jealous partner, whether body count actually matters, why married couples cheat, what Love Island is doing to our view of romance and much more... Extra Stuff: Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: https://chriswillx.com/books Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom Episodes You Might Enjoy: #577 - David Goggins - This Is How To Master Your Life: http://tinyurl.com/43hv6y59 #712 - Dr Jordan Peterson - How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs: http://tinyurl.com/2rtz7avf #700 - Dr Andrew Huberman - The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain: http://tinyurl.com/3ccn5vkp - Get In Touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact -

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Lost Connections

Johan Hari

The host references 'Lost Connections' by Johan Hari to emphasize the importance of human connections in combating de…

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The Alchemist

Paulo Coelho

The host mentions 'The Alchemist' to illustrate a personal journey of self-discovery that resonates with their experi…

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Bad Men or Men Behaving Badly

David Bust

The host discusses the concept of over-perception and under-perception bias of attraction, referencing David Bust's b…

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The conversation centers on connections and depression.
A second recurring theme is cross-sex mind reading.
Referenced books include Lost Connections by Johan Hari and The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho.
The strongest audience signal points to Individuals struggling with depression and seeking deeper understanding of relationships. and young adults exploring identity and relationships.

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connections and depression(1)cross-sex mind reading(1)self-discovery and love(1)

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Individuals struggling with depression and seeking deeper understanding of relationships.young adults exploring identity and relationshipsIndividuals interested in relationship dynamics and evolutionary psychology.

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Lost Connections

Johan Hari

Best for Individuals struggling with depression and seeking deeper understanding of relationships.Often cited around connections and depression

“The speaker references Johan Hari's book 'Lost Connections' discussing how humans are designed to sleep with others for safety against predators.”

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Sentiment: Deep Dive

Trigger: connections and depression

For: Individuals struggling with depression and seeking deeper understanding of relationships.

Key quote: “The goal of life is not to get sex. It's to get connection.”

The host references 'Lost Connections' by Johan Hari to emphasize the importance of human connections in combating depression and insomnia. They highlight how our evolutionary design necessitates relationships for emotional and psychological well-being.

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The Alchemist

Paulo Coelho

Best for young adults exploring identity and relationshipsOften cited around self-discovery and love

“The speaker mentions reading 'The Alchemist' during their time on Love Island, describing it as a journey of self-discovery that resonated with them.”

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Sentiment: Deep Dive

Trigger: self-discovery and love

For: young adults exploring identity and relationships

Key quote: “if anyone's not read The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho, there's this young shepherd boy going on a journey of self-discovery trying to find out who he is.”

The host mentions 'The Alchemist' to illustrate a personal journey of self-discovery that resonates with their experience on a reality TV show. They reflect on how the book's themes of finding one's true self paralleled their feelings during a tumultuous time in their life.

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Bad Men or Men Behaving Badly

David Bust

Best for Individuals interested in relationship dynamics and evolutionary psychology.Often cited around cross-sex mind reading

“David Bust put this out in Bad Men or Men Behaving Badly, depending on which country you're in.”

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Sentiment: Deep Dive

Trigger: cross-sex mind reading

For: Individuals interested in relationship dynamics and evolutionary psychology.

Key quote: “This is the failure of cross sex mind reading, and it explains so much about the world that that men and women inhabit because we don't inhabit the same world.”

The host discusses the concept of over-perception and under-perception bias of attraction, referencing David Bust's book to illustrate how men and women misinterpret each other's signals. This insight highlights the complexities of male-female interactions and the misunderstandings that arise from differing perceptions of attraction.

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Lost Connections

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The goal of life is not to get sex. It's to get connection.

The Alchemist

Modern Wisdom · 1:10:57

if anyone's not read The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho, there's this young shepherd boy going on a journey of self-discovery trying to find out who he is.

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This is the failure of cross sex mind reading, and it explains so much about the world that that men and women inhabit because we don't inhabit the s…

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