#505 - James Smith - Can Men &amp; Women Be Friends Again?

Hans Rosling

the way the media like portray everything you do for like the world's getting worse but the world is getting better

James Smith

all of the stuff that you leave undone all of the loops all of the uncompleted tasks all of pretty much everything that you decide isn't yet finished…

the zyganic effect which you told me about about waiters remembering open bills and forgetting about them when they're closed

Guest: James Smith

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James Smith is an author, podcaster, online trainer and not a life coach. Many men and women no longer see each other as on the same team with a common goal, and instead view them as adversaries who don't play well together. But given that humanity has continued successfully for hundreds of thousands of years, this can't be how it's always been, so why is it now? Expect to learn why James got in trouble for saying "she's a 10 but...", how convenient activities often get mistaken for enjoyable activities, whether guys can look at girls in the gym or not, whether Elon Musk not buying Twitter is a huge win for him, whether TikTok is a dangerous influence, what you can learn about yourself from the tasks you're avoiding, why people fearing ignorance is making them stupid and much more... Extra Stuff: Check out James' Academy - https://www.jamessmithacademy.com/ Follow James on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jamessmithpt Order Not A Life Coach - https://amzn.to/30VkVdb Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

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“The speaker discusses the book 'Factfulness' and how it addresses misconceptions about the state of the world, emphasizing that despite negative media portrayals, many aspects of life are improving.”

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Trigger: declinism and media portrayal

For: Individuals interested in understanding societal trends and media influence

Key quote: “the way the media like portray everything you do for like the world's getting worse but the world is getting better”

The host references 'Factfulness' to highlight the contrast between media narratives and actual improvements in global living conditions. They emphasize how the book counters the pervasive belief that the world is deteriorating, particularly in the context of declining birth rates and societal expectations.

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Best for Individuals seeking to improve their confidence and decision-making skillsOften cited around mental implications of confidence

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Trigger: mental implications of confidence

For: Individuals seeking to improve their confidence and decision-making skills

Key quote: “all of the stuff that you leave undone all of the loops all of the uncompleted tasks all of pretty much everything that you decide isn't yet finished that you could have just done right now if you were to have just done it right now that would have been sorted”

The host discusses the mental challenges people face when they hesitate to take action, linking this to themes in 'How to Be Confident.' He emphasizes the importance of overcoming anxiety and taking decisive steps to enhance one's confidence.

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“The Zyganic effect involves waiters remembering open bills and forgetting about them when they're closed, with implications for our psyche.”

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Key quote: “the zyganic effect which you told me about about waiters remembering open bills and forgetting about them when they're closed”

The host discusses the concept of the Zyganic Effect, which relates to how people remember open bills but forget closed ones, and its implications on our psyche. This leads to a broader conversation about the mental burden of uncompleted tasks and the importance of taking action.

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Factfulness

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the way the media like portray everything you do for like the world's getting worse but the world is getting better

How to Be Confident

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all of the stuff that you leave undone all of the loops all of the uncompleted tasks all of pretty much everything that you decide isn't yet finished…

The Zyganic Effect

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The host discusses the mental challenges people face when they hesitate to take action, linking this to themes in 'How to Be Confident.' He emphasi…

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