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Modern WisdomDec 13, 2021

#410 - Vincent Harinam - Why Is The Modern Dating Market A Mess?

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Guest: Vincent Harinam

Notable books mentioned: The Tribe by Jack Donovan, The Way of Men by Jack Donovan, Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink, The Moral Animal by Robert Wright

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#410 - Vincent Harinam - Why Is The Modern Dating Market A Mess? mentions The Tribe by Jack Donovan, The Way of Men by Jack Donovan, Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink, and The Moral Animal by Robert Wright with timestamps, quotes, and episode context.

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Guest: Vincent Harinam
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Vincent Harinam is a data scientist, law enforcement consultant and writer on social phenomenon and the dating market. Between Tinder and OnlyFans, polyamory and Red Pill, incels, simps, sugar daddies and gold diggers, it's difficult to say that romance is alive and well in modern culture. Vincent has written some of the best articles and done huge deep data dives to uncover why the modern dating market is such a mess. Expect to learn why smart women are less likely to get married, why simping is such an unsuccessful dating strategy, how women's modern dating advice is mostly total trash, what Vincent's data uncovered around what women and men look for in a partner, how asymmetries in the dating market can create men who are dangerous for public safety and much more...
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The Tribe
Jack Donovan
Best for Individuals interested in masculinity and personal developmentOften cited around masculinity and suffering

“Jack Donovan writes on masculinity and states that masculinity is a combination of four things, including honor, strength, courage, and mastery.”

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Sentiment: Deep Dive
For: Individuals interested in masculinity and personal development
Key quote: “So jack donovan who is um i don't really know what you would call him maybe you you've heard of him or read some of his books he um he's a fascinating figure i think because he writes on masculinity and that I've read of his, The Tribe and The Way of Men.”
The host discusses Jack Donovan's views on masculinity, emphasizing the importance of suffering and emotional control in defining what it means to be a man. Donovan's book 'The Tribe' is referenced to highlight the traits he believes are essential to masculinity, such as honor, strength, courage, and mastery.
ASIN: B07QN86LY7
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The Way of Men
Jack Donovan
Best for Individuals interested in masculinity and personal developmentOften cited around masculinity and suffering

“Jack Donovan writes on masculinity and states that masculinity is a combination of four things, including honor, strength, courage, and mastery.”

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Sentiment: Deep Dive
For: Individuals interested in masculinity and personal development
Key quote: “So jack donovan who is um I don't really know what you would call him maybe you you've heard of him or read some of his books he um he's a fascinating figure I think because he writes on masculinity and that I've read of his, The Tribe and The Way of Men.”
The host discusses Jack Donovan's perspectives on masculinity, emphasizing the importance of suffering and emotional control in achieving greatness. He references Donovan's book 'The Way of Men' to illustrate the traits he believes define masculinity, such as honor, strength, courage, and mastery.
ASIN: B011T6R8RG
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Extreme Ownership
Jocko Willink
Best for Individuals interested in personal development and understanding masculinity.Often cited around definition of masculinity

“Extreme ownership is a term that is used by Jocko Willink, referring to taking control of issues that are not necessarily your problem.”

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Sentiment: Deep Dive
For: Individuals interested in personal development and understanding masculinity.
Key quote: “Extreme ownership is a term that is used by Jocko Willink.”
The host discusses the concept of masculinity and references 'Extreme Ownership' to emphasize the importance of personal responsibility and emotional control. This book serves as a foundation for understanding how these traits contribute to a masculine identity.
ASIN: B015TM0RM4
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The Moral Animal
Robert Wright
Best for Individuals interested in evolutionary psychology and modern dating dynamics.Often cited around monogamy and sexual dynamics

“I read in The Moral Animal by Robert Wright about how monogamy is a sexual redistribution strategy.”

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Sentiment: Deep Dive
For: Individuals interested in evolutionary psychology and modern dating dynamics.
Key quote: “I read in The Moral Animal by Robert Wright about how monogamy is a sexual redistribution strategy.”
The host discusses the implications of monogamy as a sexual redistribution strategy, referencing Robert Wright's insights from 'The Moral Animal'. This connection helps to explain the dynamics of dating and the resentment seen in certain online communities regarding high-value men.
ASIN: B003VXI8DO
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