#457 - Logan Ury - Hinge&#x27;s Relationship Scientist Gives Dating Advice

Logan Urie

Logan Urie, ladies and gentlemen, if people want to keep up to date with what you're doing, where should they go?

I'm literally drinking from a mug that says intentionally ever after, which is the last line of my book.

Barry Schwartz

The maximizers believe that they are getting the objective best result because of their research.

Guest: Logan Ury

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Logan Ury is the Director of Relationship Science at Hinge, a Harvard-trained behavioural scientist and an author. Modern dating is difficult. Thankfully Logan has access to all the data from Hinge and can conduct as many studies as she wants on trends and preferences from thousands of people in and out of relationships. Expect to learn why an intentional approach to dating seems like a turn-off but is a very smart strategy, why you should start looking to settle down after dating 30% of your partners, what the data tells us are the most important rules for constructing a successful dating profile, why chasing The Spark is a recipe for disaster, how to break up with someone, how to get over heartbreak and much more...

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Logan Urie

The host mentions 'How to Not Die Alone' as a resource for individuals navigating the complexities of dating and rela…

The host mentions 'Intentionally Ever After' to emphasize the importance of being deliberate in relationships rather…

Barry Schwartz

The host discusses the concepts of maximizing and satisficing in decision-making, referencing Barry Schwartz's book t…

Algorithms to Live By

Brian Christian

The host discusses the importance of applying scientific insights from relationship science to make informed decision…

The Labor of Love

Maura Weigel

The host mentions 'The Labor of Love' to emphasize the historical context of dating and marriage, highlighting how th…

How Not to Die

Paul Graham

The host mentions 'How Not to Die' in the context of discussing health and aging, particularly how their partner is f…

aging and health(1)intentional approach to dating(1)intentional dating approach(1)maximizing vs satisficing(1)moving on from breakups(1)science of relationships(1)

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Logan Urie

Best for Individuals seeking to improve their dating life and understand relationship dynamics.Often cited around moving on from breakups

“Logan Urie mentions her book, 'How to Not Die Alone', in the context of discussing dating and relationships.”

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Sentiment: Highly Recommended

Trigger: moving on from breakups

For: Individuals seeking to improve their dating life and understand relationship dynamics.

Key quote: “Logan Urie, ladies and gentlemen, if people want to keep up to date with what you're doing, where should they go?”

The host mentions 'How to Not Die Alone' as a resource for individuals navigating the complexities of dating and relationships after a breakup. The book is highlighted for its scientific approach to understanding dating, which aligns with the discussion on rediscovering oneself post-relationship.

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Best for Individuals interested in self-help and intentional livingOften cited around intentional approach to dating

“The speaker discusses their book 'Intentionally Ever After', emphasizing a proactive approach to relationships.”

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Sentiment: Highly Recommended

Trigger: intentional approach to dating

For: Individuals interested in self-help and intentional living

Key quote: “I'm literally drinking from a mug that says intentionally ever after, which is the last line of my book.”

The host mentions 'Intentionally Ever After' to emphasize the importance of being deliberate in relationships rather than relying on the traditional notion of 'happily ever after.' This book encapsulates the host's philosophy that love and dating should be approached with intention and planning, similar to other areas of self-improvement.

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Barry Schwartz

Best for Individuals navigating modern datingOften cited around maximizing vs satisficing

“Barry Schwartz has a great book called The Paradox of Choice, where he talks about these two different ways of making decisions.”

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Sentiment: Deep Dive

Trigger: maximizing vs satisficing

For: Individuals navigating modern dating

Key quote: “The maximizers believe that they are getting the objective best result because of their research.”

The host discusses the concepts of maximizing and satisficing in decision-making, referencing Barry Schwartz's book to illustrate how these approaches affect dating choices. They emphasize that the culture of maximizing can hinder individuals from finding meaningful relationships by encouraging endless searching for the 'perfect' partner.

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Algorithms to Live By

Brian Christian

Best for Individuals interested in relationship science and decision-makingOften cited around science of relationships

“The speaker mentions that a movie about optimizing an online dating profile is unlikely, referencing 'Algorithms to Live By'.”

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Sentiment: Deep Dive

Trigger: science of relationships

For: Individuals interested in relationship science and decision-making

Key quote: “So a lot of the time with regards to relationships and presenting the movie, it's not going to be presented in common media.”

The host discusses the importance of applying scientific insights from relationship science to make informed decisions about love and partnerships. They reference 'Algorithms to Live By' to highlight how analytical approaches can enhance understanding of romantic relationships, contrasting it with cultural perceptions of romance.

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The Labor of Love

Maura Weigel

Best for Individuals interested in relationship science and lifestyle designOften cited around intentional dating approach

“The speaker references 'The Labor of Love' by Maura Weigel as a great book discussing the history of dating and marriage.”

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Sentiment: Deep Dive

Trigger: intentional dating approach

For: Individuals interested in relationship science and lifestyle design

Key quote: “And there's a great book on this called the labor of love. By Maura Weigel.”

The host mentions 'The Labor of Love' to emphasize the historical context of dating and marriage, highlighting how these concepts have evolved over time. They argue that love and dating should be analyzed and understood just like other important life decisions, rather than being viewed as a magical or unapproachable topic.

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How Not to Die

Paul Graham

Best for Individuals interested in health and aging strategies.Often cited around aging and health

“The speaker mentions their husband reading 'How Not to Die' and his focus on health and aging.”

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Sentiment: Passing Reference

Trigger: aging and health

For: Individuals interested in health and aging strategies.

Key quote: “my husband is one of those people where it's like he's he read that book. How how not to die.”

The host mentions 'How Not to Die' in the context of discussing health and aging, particularly how their partner is focused on health strategies like intermittent fasting. This reference highlights a contrast between their partner's proactive health approach and their own desire for immediate physical well-being.

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How to Not Die Alone

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Logan Urie, ladies and gentlemen, if people want to keep up to date with what you're doing, where should they go?

Intentionally Ever After

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I'm literally drinking from a mug that says intentionally ever after, which is the last line of my book.

The Paradox of Choice

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The maximizers believe that they are getting the objective best result because of their research.

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